Myths about Soul Mates

1. The relationship should be natural, easy and uncomplicated:

The truth is that all relationships take time, effort, commitment and energy. You need to make time for each other, to do fun things together, to work on communication, and to learn to negotiate and compromise.


2. The relationship should be conflict free:

Because we are individuals and unique we all disagree with other from time to time, so conflict is natural, and is not something to fear. In fact, conflict can force us to confront our differences, and to grow as individuals, and as couples too.


3. Soul mates are romantic:

Real life is not the movies, and love can be expressed in countless different ways, and still be genuine. Look out for all the signs that show your partner cares, and don’t be disappointed if they’re not “the stereotype”. Don’t try to force them to be someone they cannot be.

4. You should always see things the same way and have the same opinions, outlooks and beliefs:

You both have different backgrounds and your own ways of seeing the world, so you’re going to differ in the way you look at life. That does not have to be a problem – it’s healthy to be different, and approach things from different directions.

5. My soul mate will always like and love me:

Consideration, respect, and a concern for your partner are evidence of a loving relationship. However, being rude and disrespectful or irresponsible are not endearing qualities that build relationships. Instead, we need to give ourselves to others – as it’s not “all about me”.

TJ