Friday, May 27, 2016

Work Ethic






Every coach who really wants to be successful should pay attention to this guy (His record speaks for itself),

"I'd take a 2-star recruit
with a 5-star work ethic 
over a 5-star recruit 
with a 2-star work ethic any day." 
Mike Krzyzewski



tj

Tuesday, May 24, 2016

You Can Get What You Want Out of Life




1. You need to begin by thinking about what you want your life to look like. It’s important to be concrete and specific here – not general and vague. Then, use that information to set clear goals for yourself. 

2. Be confident and believe in yourself. There’s no reason why you shouldn’t have what other people have, or should be that individual you’d really like to be. If you’re willing to work hard, and to pay the price required, then you can have what you want and find the niche for you. 

3. Keep your focus on your goal – don’t get sidetracked from your dream. You’ll have to keep on going and to push through trying times. Remember, the prize is worth the effort; you’ll be glad you persevered. 

4. Don’t give in to temptation to go for lesser goals, or to do something attractive that won’t lead anywhere. Don’t pretend that you’ll be happy if you give up on your dream. You’ll wish that you’d be stronger and looked at the “long-term”. 

5. If you slip up – just get over it – and move on with your plan. It doesn’t mean it’s over. Get back on track again. The goal is too important to waste time on regrets. Your focus is the future, and what will take you there. 

6. Recognize your weaknesses – and then plan to manage them. That way, you won’t be taken by surprise, and you’ll have some strategies. 

7. Finish what you start, and don’t leave loose ends untied. You have to be committed, and thorough, to achieve. Being lazy or half-hearted will hamper your success. 

TJ

Sunday, May 22, 2016

All men dream

 

 

T. E. Lawrence once said, “All men dream but not equally. Those who dream by night in the dusty recesses of their minds awake to the day to find it was all vanity. But the dreamers of the day are dangerous men, for the many act out their dreams with open eyes, to make it possible...”

I believe that dreams (during sleep) can be described as the brain’s time to run free. When our bodies tire, we find a comfortable position, and become indifferent in the things going on around us that beg for our attention we are able to sleep. I believe that our dreams are comprised of, “all past experiences which are not available to waking consciousness, or for recollection. (Walsh, p. 25)” This leads to what happens when we do fall asleep, “As we go to sleep the door to the mind is, so to speak, gradually opened, and the dream is more (Walsh, p. 25).” 

From a Biblical perspective, God revealed Himself to the prophets through dreams and visions to communicate His truth. However, I do not believe God speaks to us today through dreams, certainly not as He did in the Old Testament. I do think that God uses other avenues (people, trial or difficulties, circumstances, etc.) to teach us and call things to our attention that we need to deal with or learn from. When I walk 18 holes of golf, and I am huffing and puffing, I can understand that I am out of shape and need to exercise more. I believe God uses circumstances to teach us. Therefore, dreams may be important if there is a consistent theme. Emotionally and spiritually this could be pointing to a spiritual problem that needs to be worked out such as a broken relationship.

I have very little recall of what I dream. I do dream, but I really could not say how much because memories of my dreams never last long upon waking. The dreams that are the most vivid for me usually have to deal with negative issues within relationships. 

TJ

Friday, May 20, 2016

Things I Learned from Job




Most people look for simple/quick answers to just about every life event. In the Book of Job, God presents the basic argument that life is too complicated for the simple answers we all seek. When we try to analyze our situations by looking to God for simple answers, we are most often asking Him for information, that if He gave it to us, we would never be able to understand. God is telling Job, and us, that He (God) is the only one who can deal with the trials that often come into our lives. Our role, at this point in any situation, is to trust God and continue to bring Him glory by our responses to the good and the bad. Although Job's life was filled with tragedy, he continued to "worship" God in those times. The Book of Job gives us a great picture of God's response to Job's faithfulness, "and Job died, and old man, and full of days" (Job 42:17, RSV). 

Human suffering continues to be a result of Satan's original challenge to the hierarchy God established in the beginning. Job, as far as we know while alive, was never given an answer for his suffering. Likewise, we will more than likely never have exhaustive answers to suffering we face in life. The lesson from Job is that there will be times of suffering and hardship in life and we will never have the total picture. Most of the time God will not reveal the "reason(s)" for the struggle, but our role is to trust His plan and to bring Him glory through our actions in those times of struggle. Our witness before a lost world often depends more on how we behave (actions) than what we say. 

Bottom Line:
We need to trust God's plan, because life is too complicated to handle alone.




Verba docent, exempla trahunt
"Words instruct, illustrations lead"

TJ

Right and Wrong

 



Think about this.

A smart person is smart enough to know he’s smart.
A dumb person is often too dumb to know he’s dumb, so he thinks he’s smart, but he’s not.
So both of them think they’re smart, but only one is really smart and the other is dumb.

So here’s my question:
Do you think you’re smart?
If you do, is it because you are smart and you know it, or because you’re actually too dumb to know how dumb you are?

How do you answer that question?
There’s only one way to solve this problem.
You take a test.
That is, you need an outside, objective standard to resolve the issue.

This illustrates the problem of psychological confidence.
Most people feel they’re right about what they believe.
But everyone’s obviously not right.
Some people are right and some are wrong.
So how do you know the difference when each feels just as certain he’s correct as the other does?

The answer:

You need more than internal psychological confidence.
You need outside evidence.
That’s why careful Christians don’t just have “faith.” They have convictions.
They have beliefs that are anchored to objective evidence because they know the dangers of putting too much faith in mere psychological confidence.


Fortes fortuna iuvat
"Fortune favors the strong"




TJ

Sunday, May 15, 2016

Do You Beleive That All Is Relative?





7 Things You Can't Do as a Moral Relativist:
  1. Relativists Can’t Accuse Others of Wrong-Doing
  2. Relativists Can’t Complain About the Problem of Evil
  3. Relativists Can’t Place Blame or Accept Praise
  4. Relativists Can’t Claim Anything Is Unfair or Unjust
  5. Relativists Can’t Improve Their Morality
  6. Relativists Can’t Hold Meaningful Moral Discussions
  7. Relativists Can’t Promote the Obligation of Tolerance  
   Moral relativism is the theory that denies that humans can possess any objective, universally meaningful knowledge, that there are any ultimate and unchanging metaphysical realities or that there are any moral absolutes. Philosopher Peter Kreeft said that "No culture in history has ever embraced moral relativism and survived." If you don't think objective moral values exist, Kreeft can teach you about that. But what's the problem with moral relativism? Greg Koukl of Stand to Reason (who along with Francis Beckwith wrote the book on Relativism) wrote a great article in Salvo Magazine on that topic.


tj

Friday, May 13, 2016

Philosophy of Cultural Diversity



Generally speaking, within the practice of counseling, race, ethnic groups, or cultural groups should not cause a counselor to have to make drastic, or even semi-drastic, changes to the way they conduct a counseling session. There are differing schemas that can provide mental images in which to "fit" someone into a specific category based on their culture and/or racial backgrounds. This is something, one might guess, that everyone does when they come into contact with someone different from themselves to any large degree.  

Biblically speaking, God's Word is very clear on the classification of His created beings, "God created man in His own image, in the image of God He created him; male and female He created them" (Genesis 1:27, NASB). Prior to this verse we find that the Bible opens with these words, "In the beginning, God" (Genesis 1:1, NASB). This should make clear that the starting point for any discussion of the philosophy of counseling people from diverse groups must be "In the beginning, God." To focus on the opening chapter of Genesis must be paramount to the person who sits in the counselor's chair. 

Technically speaking, for behavior to change there must be a change in how one thinks. Faulty thinking, from a CBT point of view, is the root of most problems that arise in someone's life. Albeit, there are developmental issues that can arise, but they too seem to be best corrected by changing how someone thinks. The almost default setting is to help someone reframe how they perceive an issue in order to develop a proper context for the issue. As someone better understands how their own view of the problem might be skewed, they are then better able to control the context of their thinking and develop a more correct frame of reference. 

Culturally speaking, there is no doubt that being raised in the south as a fourth generation Texan/Native American/German American/English American there could very well be some bias toward those that are different culturally and ethnically. That means controlling stereotypes is possibly one of the biggest obstacles that needs to be faced. To overcome this hurdle, one must make efforts to understand the client's worldview. There is a need to have knowledge of what influences the client's ideas and behaviors. With the knowledge there should be change in the way the client is viewed. Changing a stereotype is tough, but it can be done using what some call the bookkeeping model which simply means that as a counselor develops new insight into contradictory information they begin to incrementally change and adapt their presuppositions about the client.

References

New American Standard Bible (NASB) Copyright © 1960, 1962, 1963, 1968, 1971, 1972, 1973, 1975, 1977, 1995 by The Lockman Foundation.

 

TJ