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STOP OVER-THINKING!!!!

When you start over-thinking,

1. Write it down, and try to summarize your thoughts and feelings in a short paragraph. 

2. Set aside a specific time, and a specific amount of time, to think about the issue. 

3. When you find yourself over-thinking again, interrupt your thinking by distracting yourself. 

4. Remind yourself that many problems solve themselves, and disappear, with time. 

5. Change your environment. 

6. Engage your brain in a demanding task.

7. Exercise or do something physical. 

 TJ

Learning to Love Yourself

1. Treat other people with kindness and respect. Choosing to bring joy to other people’s lives will increase your happiness and self-respect. Also, often when we treat other people well, they start to treat us in the same way, too. 

2. Learn to let go of what happened in the past. You deserve a new start and a fresh beginning. We’ve all messed up and experienced bad things. So, don’t allow these memories to rob you of your future. You’re not just a victim of your past. Acknowledge and work through any negative emotions – then put them behind you and start to live again. 

3. Work on forgiving yourself. Related to point 2, don’t punish yourself for past failings and regrets. Instead, see them as a lesson, and a chance to learn and grow. Don’t ridicule, demean or devalue yourself. That was then – this is now … You are different - so move on. 

4. Keep a journal where you write your thoughts and feelings. When you’re feeling positive, try to appreciate those emotions. When you’re feeling negative, try to show some self-compassion, and seek to be gentle and kind to yourself. You need to work on validating and affirming yourself – not treating yourself like your worst enemy. 

5. Be persistent as you work on accepting yourself. A key part of love is unconditional acceptance. Work on loving who you are right now. Only then will you be able to work on changing – because you’re able to accept who you are at the core. 

6. Trust yourself. You’re not here to please others. Learn to trust your intuition. 

7. Practice saying “no”. It’s okay to say “no” without feeling guilty. You have the right to decide what you’ll do with your life. 

8. Practice receiving and accepting love from others. Know you’re worthy of love – and other people really mean it when they say that you matter, and they love and care for you. 

TJ

Christmas Is the Loneliest Time of the Year for Many

How to Overcome Feelings of Loneliness

1. Understand that loneliness is a feeling, and not necessarily a fact. Sometimes we feel lonely, unwanted or rejected based on wrong beliefs about ourselves and others. Often people and events acts as triggers for our feelings … and then we start to act as if they represent the truth.

2. Fight the urge to withdraw or to isolate yourself. You’ll actually feel better if you some spend time with others (but spend time with people who love you, just for “you”).

3. Check for making assumptions, or jumping to conclusions, or skewed ways of thinking which make things seem much worse. Then, look for exceptions to balance up the picture. Don’t waste your time and energy on biased, untrue stuff.

4. Related to this, make sure you’re not attacking or putting yourself down. Try and focus on your good points, and things that you do right. 

5. Work on being warm and friendly – as often other people are hiding their own feelings of insecurity. Hence, they’ll often be responsive when we are warm and friendly – and then reciprocate by being interested in us. 

6. Try and find other people who share some of your interests – as that’s a natural way to form connections, or build bridges. 

TJ