1. Treat other people with kindness
and respect. Choosing to bring joy to other people’s lives will increase your
happiness and self-respect. Also, often when we treat other people well, they
start to treat us in the same way, too.
2. Learn to let go of what happened
in the past. You deserve a new start and a fresh beginning. We’ve all messed up
and experienced bad things. So, don’t allow these memories to rob you of your
future. You’re not just a victim of your past. Acknowledge and work through any
negative emotions – then put them behind you and start to live again.
3. Work on forgiving yourself.
Related to point 2, don’t punish yourself for past failings and regrets.
Instead, see them as a lesson, and a chance to learn and grow. Don’t ridicule,
demean or devalue yourself. That was then – this is now … You are different -
so move on.
4. Keep a journal where you write
your thoughts and feelings. When you’re feeling positive, try to appreciate those
emotions. When you’re feeling negative, try to show some self-compassion, and
seek to be gentle and kind to yourself. You need to work on validating and
affirming yourself – not treating yourself like your worst enemy.
5. Be persistent as you work on
accepting yourself. A key part of love is unconditional acceptance. Work on
loving who you are right now. Only then will you be able to work on changing –
because you’re able to accept who you are at the core.
6. Trust yourself. You’re not here
to please others. Learn to trust your intuition.
7. Practice saying “no”. It’s okay
to say “no” without feeling guilty. You have the right to decide what you’ll do
with your life.
8. Practice receiving and accepting
love from others. Know you’re worthy of love – and other people really mean it
when they say that you matter, and they love and care for you.
TJ
