Tuesday, May 24, 2016

You Can Get What You Want Out of Life




1. You need to begin by thinking about what you want your life to look like. It’s important to be concrete and specific here – not general and vague. Then, use that information to set clear goals for yourself. 

2. Be confident and believe in yourself. There’s no reason why you shouldn’t have what other people have, or should be that individual you’d really like to be. If you’re willing to work hard, and to pay the price required, then you can have what you want and find the niche for you. 

3. Keep your focus on your goal – don’t get sidetracked from your dream. You’ll have to keep on going and to push through trying times. Remember, the prize is worth the effort; you’ll be glad you persevered. 

4. Don’t give in to temptation to go for lesser goals, or to do something attractive that won’t lead anywhere. Don’t pretend that you’ll be happy if you give up on your dream. You’ll wish that you’d be stronger and looked at the “long-term”. 

5. If you slip up – just get over it – and move on with your plan. It doesn’t mean it’s over. Get back on track again. The goal is too important to waste time on regrets. Your focus is the future, and what will take you there. 

6. Recognize your weaknesses – and then plan to manage them. That way, you won’t be taken by surprise, and you’ll have some strategies. 

7. Finish what you start, and don’t leave loose ends untied. You have to be committed, and thorough, to achieve. Being lazy or half-hearted will hamper your success. 

TJ

Friday, May 20, 2016

Things I Learned from Job




Most people look for simple/quick answers to just about every life event. In the Book of Job, God presents the basic argument that life is too complicated for the simple answers we all seek. When we try to analyze our situations by looking to God for simple answers, we are most often asking Him for information, that if He gave it to us, we would never be able to understand. God is telling Job, and us, that He (God) is the only one who can deal with the trials that often come into our lives. Our role, at this point in any situation, is to trust God and continue to bring Him glory by our responses to the good and the bad. Although Job's life was filled with tragedy, he continued to "worship" God in those times. The Book of Job gives us a great picture of God's response to Job's faithfulness, "and Job died, and old man, and full of days" (Job 42:17, RSV). 

Human suffering continues to be a result of Satan's original challenge to the hierarchy God established in the beginning. Job, as far as we know while alive, was never given an answer for his suffering. Likewise, we will more than likely never have exhaustive answers to suffering we face in life. The lesson from Job is that there will be times of suffering and hardship in life and we will never have the total picture. Most of the time God will not reveal the "reason(s)" for the struggle, but our role is to trust His plan and to bring Him glory through our actions in those times of struggle. Our witness before a lost world often depends more on how we behave (actions) than what we say. 

Bottom Line:
We need to trust God's plan, because life is too complicated to handle alone.




Verba docent, exempla trahunt
"Words instruct, illustrations lead"

TJ

Right and Wrong

 



Think about this.

A smart person is smart enough to know he’s smart.
A dumb person is often too dumb to know he’s dumb, so he thinks he’s smart, but he’s not.
So both of them think they’re smart, but only one is really smart and the other is dumb.

So here’s my question:
Do you think you’re smart?
If you do, is it because you are smart and you know it, or because you’re actually too dumb to know how dumb you are?

How do you answer that question?
There’s only one way to solve this problem.
You take a test.
That is, you need an outside, objective standard to resolve the issue.

This illustrates the problem of psychological confidence.
Most people feel they’re right about what they believe.
But everyone’s obviously not right.
Some people are right and some are wrong.
So how do you know the difference when each feels just as certain he’s correct as the other does?

The answer:

You need more than internal psychological confidence.
You need outside evidence.
That’s why careful Christians don’t just have “faith.” They have convictions.
They have beliefs that are anchored to objective evidence because they know the dangers of putting too much faith in mere psychological confidence.


Fortes fortuna iuvat
"Fortune favors the strong"




TJ

Sunday, May 15, 2016

Do You Beleive That All Is Relative?





7 Things You Can't Do as a Moral Relativist:
  1. Relativists Can’t Accuse Others of Wrong-Doing
  2. Relativists Can’t Complain About the Problem of Evil
  3. Relativists Can’t Place Blame or Accept Praise
  4. Relativists Can’t Claim Anything Is Unfair or Unjust
  5. Relativists Can’t Improve Their Morality
  6. Relativists Can’t Hold Meaningful Moral Discussions
  7. Relativists Can’t Promote the Obligation of Tolerance  
   Moral relativism is the theory that denies that humans can possess any objective, universally meaningful knowledge, that there are any ultimate and unchanging metaphysical realities or that there are any moral absolutes. Philosopher Peter Kreeft said that "No culture in history has ever embraced moral relativism and survived." If you don't think objective moral values exist, Kreeft can teach you about that. But what's the problem with moral relativism? Greg Koukl of Stand to Reason (who along with Francis Beckwith wrote the book on Relativism) wrote a great article in Salvo Magazine on that topic.


tj

Friday, May 13, 2016

Philosophy of Cultural Diversity



Generally speaking, within the practice of counseling, race, ethnic groups, or cultural groups should not cause a counselor to have to make drastic, or even semi-drastic, changes to the way they conduct a counseling session. There are differing schemas that can provide mental images in which to "fit" someone into a specific category based on their culture and/or racial backgrounds. This is something, one might guess, that everyone does when they come into contact with someone different from themselves to any large degree.  

Biblically speaking, God's Word is very clear on the classification of His created beings, "God created man in His own image, in the image of God He created him; male and female He created them" (Genesis 1:27, NASB). Prior to this verse we find that the Bible opens with these words, "In the beginning, God" (Genesis 1:1, NASB). This should make clear that the starting point for any discussion of the philosophy of counseling people from diverse groups must be "In the beginning, God." To focus on the opening chapter of Genesis must be paramount to the person who sits in the counselor's chair. 

Technically speaking, for behavior to change there must be a change in how one thinks. Faulty thinking, from a CBT point of view, is the root of most problems that arise in someone's life. Albeit, there are developmental issues that can arise, but they too seem to be best corrected by changing how someone thinks. The almost default setting is to help someone reframe how they perceive an issue in order to develop a proper context for the issue. As someone better understands how their own view of the problem might be skewed, they are then better able to control the context of their thinking and develop a more correct frame of reference. 

Culturally speaking, there is no doubt that being raised in the south as a fourth generation Texan/Native American/German American/English American there could very well be some bias toward those that are different culturally and ethnically. That means controlling stereotypes is possibly one of the biggest obstacles that needs to be faced. To overcome this hurdle, one must make efforts to understand the client's worldview. There is a need to have knowledge of what influences the client's ideas and behaviors. With the knowledge there should be change in the way the client is viewed. Changing a stereotype is tough, but it can be done using what some call the bookkeeping model which simply means that as a counselor develops new insight into contradictory information they begin to incrementally change and adapt their presuppositions about the client.

References

New American Standard Bible (NASB) Copyright © 1960, 1962, 1963, 1968, 1971, 1972, 1973, 1975, 1977, 1995 by The Lockman Foundation.

 

TJ

Monday, May 9, 2016

Leadership Boundaries

Only when you are able to set your own boundaries will you be able to acknowledge and respect the boundaries of others. ‪#‎leadership‬ ‪#‎life‬

Wednesday, May 4, 2016

Docendo Discimus - We Learn By Teaching



There are many theories of how people learn. Almost everyone who has written or spoken of learning has a different opinion of how it takes place, and how the brain processes information. From an experiential point of view, learning that can be accurately retrieved is a direct result of how, and under what circumstances specific information is encoded and stored in long-term memory. One of the most effective ways this is done is through learning material with a view to teaching that same material. In the academic, as well as the personal realm, being able to teach someone else what is learned serves as proof that someone has learned the specific information.

Clearer Knowledge

The foundation of learning is thinking about the facts, and being able to restate those ideas in a truthful manner with objectivity. From a teaching perspective it is imperative that we understand that fundamental to all teaching,
            “No progress can be made in teaching any subject until the facts, the truth about it, are imparted. All systems of education begin here”  (Marquis, 1917)
The use of questions through elaborative interrogation, whether internally or externally initiated, forces one to combine the new information with existing knowledge for, expectantly, a clearer and more enduring store of knowledge. Donald K. Adams adds to this thought with a poignant phrase when he says, “Any constructs that require us to close our eyes to any of the phenomena of experience are bad constructs” (Adams, 1954). Along with clearer knowledge about ideas, the information to be learned has to be meaningful.

Better Remembered

Meaningfulness is probably the most important element in the learning environment, and it is usually dependent on felt needs. This thought can be closely tied to Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs from his paper, A Theory of Human Motivation, 1943, because instinctual needs are felt needs whether or not they reside in consciousness or not. Meaningfulness is also an important component of behavior and cognitive theories, in that people most often respond to and process information in ways that meet their felt needs. Therefore, in light of the aspect of learning addressed in this paper, finding meaning is paramount to better encoding through connecting new ideas to current thought structures. To be useful learning itself must, “imply at least some permanence in connections” (Thorndike, 1913). However, sometimes people do get in their own way on the road to understanding.

Variables

Many things can derail the learning process. Within the field of psychology many people often miss an important fact, “In order to work, psychological laws have to use psychological variables: i.e. acts rather than responses, organisms as personalities, rather than proton-electron aggregates, pieces of protoplasm, or cell assemblies, and objects rather than stimuli”  (Adams, 1954). First, does the individual have the intention to learn? Learning has many facets or acts that can be visible, and they can be a products of trial and error based on stimulus-response conditioning often taught though the implementation of punishments and rewards, or they can be a self-directed efforts to improve understanding of an idea or set of ideas. Second, is the individual interested in the topic, and if not can it be incentivized? Incentive is a difficult target to hit, and remembering that people have personalities that are as varied as the people themselves is keys to finding the bull’s-eye. Positive reinforcement in an educational setting can be very effective. When someone is able to use the information learned in a positive way it elevates their self-confidence, and enhances their self-image. Other learning environments require other motivators. Some may require negative reinforcement to reinforce the desired behavior. How do we know we have cleared the variable hurdles?

Proof

 Why is teaching possibly the best way to demonstrate what has been learned? The connection between learning and memory is best exemplified by restating in a coherent way the knowledge acquired through learning. A critical error is often perpetuated by instructors who think testing is a good measure for what has been learned. It could be expressed this way, “The average examination tests very little more than memory” (Schaeffer, 1901). Testing, for the most part, is akin to teaching a parrot to speak. We can teach the bird to repeat a word, but the bird cannot explain the meaning of the word, therefore, the bird has not learned how to understand the word, only how say the word. Suffice it to say, “In studying his lessons the average schoolboy’s sole aim is to be able to repeat once, and only once, the knowledge before him” (Lyon, 1917). It is not problematical to memorize lists of names, words, and numbers, but attributing meaning to each of these is proof of learning. Regurgitation of facts is not necessarily indicative of true knowledge of a subject. Adding meaning to what is regurgitated is evidence that an idea is learned. What is gained by learning with a view to teaching?

Final Words

When we learn with a view to being able to teach the material we become motivated during the encoding process. Our motivation can produce openness to the ideas studied while our schemas keep our storage of the information in perspective. This format retains much in common with narrative theory involving sequential, action-oriented, and detailed thought. Truth and reality must come first in the learning process. Based on the correspondence view of the truth, ideas not based in reality should not be considered to have been learned. This does not include ideas presented as hypothesis or theory because those must be understood in light of what they are and not presented as facts. Teaching as a proof of learning is to exhibit comprehension of an idea, although not always exhaustively, in a truthful manner with considerable depth of understanding.

Conclusion

Docendo discimus, are not only words Seneca the Younger wrote in his letters to Lucilius Junior in Epistulae Morales in 50 – 65 AD, they are the words that I believe best describe the learning process. There are others in higher education that agree with this belief as they have taken these words and employed them as mottos at their various institutions. If we encode ideas, store them, and are able to retrieve them with an adequate depth of true knowledge, we can be said to have learned the material. I believe in this idea so deeply I have a blog with its namesake. Therefore, like Seneca, I believe we learn by teaching or docendo discimus. 

Works Cited
Adams, D. K. (1954). Learning and Explanation. In Learning Theory, Personality Theory, and Clinical Research: the Kentucky Symposium (pp. 69-77). New York, NY, USA: Wiley.
Lyon, D. O. (1917). The Educational Value of Psychological Research. In D. O. Lyon, Memory and the Learning Process (p. 156). Baltimore, MD, USA: Warwick & York.
Marquis, J. A. (1917). Learning to Teach from The Master Teacher. Philadelphia: Westminster Press.
Schaeffer, N. C. (1901). The Materials of Thought. In Thinking and Learning To Think (p. 50). Philadephia: Lippincott Company.
Thorndike, E. L. (1913). The Original Nature of Man (Vol. I). New York, NY, USA: Teachers College, Columbia University.
TJ

Monday, May 2, 2016

Orientation to Culture / Diversity

The topic of diversity is a is an extraordinarily tough topic to address. The fact that Choudhuri (2012) uses the "fourth force" descriptive does not add much to the validity of her writing. If this sounds harsh, it is not intended to be harsh, but personal convictions about the destructive power of multiculturalism may lend to the perception of harshness. 

Counseling from a Biblical perspective should be something that tends to be a bit more narrow in focus, but should never be narrow-minded. Acknowledging cultural differences must be integrated into the counselor-client relationship. It would seem quite foolish to assume that everyone, regardless of ethnicity, race, country of origin, socioeconomic background, or just about any variable, to respond to a one-size-fits-all counseling approach. 

Counseling, with in the cultural context, requires a counselor to adapt certain approaches to therapy to fit the client. Cultural background should play a role in the decision-making of the counselor. However, what does seem somewhat unusual is to require a counselor to share a cultural heritage with a client. The previous statement may sound strange, but that seems to be thought process, although not necessarily stated as such, of the emic approach to counseling those of different cultures. Choudhuri (2012) explains the emic approach as one that requires a counselor to adapt the approach they use to the client, and if they cannot adapt they should create a new way to counsel the culturally specific client. On its face this sounds like a grand plan, but there seem to be some underlying assumptions connected to the emic approach. 

This approach could arguably be implying that a counselor is not equipped, using their tested methods, to counsel someone from a different culture because they, the counselor, are not from that particular background. Does this approach produce unity among differing groups, or does this approach add to the division that can, and does, exist between those from differing cultures? 

It would seem that an etic approach would be more reasonable when counseling those from differing cultures. The etic approach seems, on its face, to be compatible with a Biblical approach. The Biblical approach seems to work best when common ground (principles) can be found upon which to build a trusting and mutually helpful relationship. The Biblical approach is exemplified so well in the Book of Acts when the Apostle Paul goes to  Athens to proclaim God on Mars Hill. At Mars Hill he did not change his method or approach, but instead Paul found common ground with those he sought to win over. Paul, like any responsible counselor might, started with common ground and insight into their culture. He did not remain there though. He moved on to share the truth with those who were listening, "The God who made the world and all things in it, since He is Lord of heaven and earth, does not dwell in temples made with hands; nor is He served by human hands, as though He needed anything, since He Himself gives to all people life and breath and all things" (Acts 17:24-25, NASB). He may have started with cultural relevance, but he turned quickly to transcendent truth. This truth was foreign to the Athenian culture, but God can, and still does speak to people of every culture in the same manner.

References

Choudhuri, D., Santiago-Rivera, A., & Garrett, M. (2012). Counseling and diversity. Belmont, CA: Brooks/Cole.

New American Standard Bible (NASB) Copyright © 1960, 1962, 1963, 1968, 1971, 1972, 1973 1975, 1977, 1995 by The Lockman 

TJ