Myths about “True Love”

1. The relationship should be natural, easy and uncomplicated: The truth is that all relationships take time, effort, commitment and energy. You need to make time for each other, to do fun things together, to work on communication, and to learn to negotiate and compromise.

2. The relationship should be conflict free: Because each of us are unique, we all disagree with others at times, so conflict is natural, and not to be feared. In fact, conflict can force us to confront our differences, and to grow as individuals, and as couples too.

3. Soul mates are romantic: Real life is not the movies, and love can be expressed in countless different ways, and still be genuine. Look out for all the signs that show your partner cares, and don’t be disappointed if they’re not “the stereotype”.  Don’t try to force them to be something that they cannot be.

4. You should always see things the same way and have the same opinions, outlooks and beliefs: People have different backgrounds and have individual brains so they are going to sometimes differ in the way they look at life. This should not be a problem – you don’t want to be clones.

5. My partner will always like and love me: Consideration, respect and a concern for your partner are symptoms of a loving relationship. But being rude and disrespectful or irresponsible are not endearing qualities that build relationships. Instead, we need to focus on being for others what we need from them – as it’s not “all about me”. 

TJ