How to Win in Life

1. Know what you want to get out of life … as you won’t reach your goals if you don’t where you’re going.

2. Make a list of all things that you’re grateful for in life … as it will help to change your attitude, your feelings and your mood.

3. Count to 10 before reacting to someone or to something … as you don’t want to live with a series of regrets.

4. Track your progress so you know how you are doing on your journey … and can make needed adjustments if you start to get off course. 

5. Take care of yourself or you’ll end up tired and burnt out … and you’ll lose the motivation to try, and persevere.


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How to make your ideas attractive to others

Our values and other rules give strong direction to our behavior. Although we may sometimes break our values, social norms, morals and ethics, when we know others will know that.

If we do not follow values, we will feel shame. Just the anticipated feeling of shame is enough to force us to comply, especially if a person is making a direct appeal to our values.
This is the appeal often used by charities. "You know it's right to help the elderly and infirm."




Transactional Analysis describes how we may use our 'child' ego state to appeal to the other person's 'adult' state. "Oh please, Ma, do buy me that new dress!". We may also appeal to the to other person at any TA level. We can even do child-to-child wicked appeals. "Hey, let's have some fun!!"
You can also appeal to their role. Appeal to a manager for a decision. Appeal to an engineer for an explanation. If people are wearing a suit, they will act as if they are the suit.



Appeal to needs, greeds and addictions
"Hey, would you like some chocolate?" Appealing to things that people can't resist is usually a certainty. "Would you like to have a million dollars? Now?"




Appeal to their better nature.
Appeal to common values of decency.
Talk to the child in them. 
Or the parent. 
Or even the rational adult.



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6 Strengths Possessed By Most Introverts

1. Often introverts have a greater appreciation for nuances, subtlety and understatement.

2. They listen and process information carefully - so their comments and answers have real substance to them.

3. They think deeply about matters, and genuinely care.

4. Most are, for the most part, self-sufficient, and can cope with being alone. Thus, they actually benefit from solitude.

5. They don’t judge themselves by how others rate them. This means they’re able to focus on the work they have to do.

6. They tend to be selective in the friendships they develop – and so prove to be a loyal and an understanding friend.   



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