How to Know Yourself Better

1. If you could change one aspect of your life or personality, what would it be? 

2. Are you “your own person” or are you defined and pushed around by others?

3. Is there any area of your life where you feel out of control? 

4. Do you feel more comfortable in an organized or chaotic environment? 

5. How comfortable are you with spontaneous ideas, or a last-minute change in plans? 

6. Do you feel renewed by being around others, or is it crucial for you to have time on your own? 

7. Are you motivated, or undermined, by competition? 

8. Do you work well under pressure, or do you tend to fall apart? 

9. Are you better at praising and complimenting others, or at consciously affirming and building yourself up? 

10. Are you a morning or an evening person? 

11. Do you persevere, or do you give up easily? 

12. Do you like to go with the flow, or take control of your own life? 

13. Are you more of a thinker or a feeler? 

14. What are your passions and goals? 

15. What would your perfect day look like?

KJ

7 Things That Cause Hurt and Pain

1. Realizing that you’ve lost them

and can never have them back
 
2. Reliving the old memories

and the fun times you had
 
3. Pretending that you’re happy

when you’re miserable and sad 
 
4. Being obsessed with the wrong person

who will never love you back 
 
5. Regretting how you acted,

or the careless things you said
 
6. Recognizing it’s your fault

that things have turned out bad 
 
7. Being abandoned or rejected

by your friends or family

KJ

The Truth About Life …

Things never, ever go according to your plan because you’ll always have unexpected snags and obstacles. There are unforeseen things that will pop up, at the most inopportune moments, and send you in a direction you never expected to go.

Not everyone will like you or want to be your friend and that is okay. Really, it is okay to not be friends with everyone. It is hard enough to tell real friends from false friends until a need arises and they are no where to be found or they toss you aside when you are no longer useful to them.

We all lose motivation and want to ditch our dreams. Remember this, success is transitory – the happiness you feel when you are winning will pass. However, that is the moment that truly successful people step up and keep moving forward.

We all get disappointed and let down by our friends, but remember, attitude is everything – we choose how to react. There’s always something good, if we will only look for it. Life is full of chances, new beginnings and fresh starts.

It is never too late to be who you might have been.

TJ

Why Is Everyone More Successful Than Me???

There's an optical illusion that's easy to fall for, even if you know the trick. The more distant you are from other people, the more invulnerable they appear.

You see yourself as you are, with your flaws just as clear as your successes, but you see most other people on their terms, only from the side they present to the world. And at first glance they've got everything figured out, with everything set in stone, securely rooted in their community, wrapped up with their loved ones, their lives like a finished work of art.

But it's only just a trick of perspective: everyone else seems to be doing better than you, because you can't see the cracks from so far away. How insecure their footing, how pliable they really are. How many years of effort went into shaping their identity into something acceptable, how many other hands it took to build their lives, which are still only a work in progress.

It's the kind of basic human vulnerability that we'd all find familiar, but is still somehow surprising when we notice it in others. It's an open question why we have such public confidence, and such private doubts.

Maybe that contradiction is what keeps us moving, wanting to be more than what we are, and never be satisfied. Maybe it lets us keep our distance, to avoid too much friction as we brush past each other. 

Or maybe it's what draws us together, the only irreplaceable thing we still need each other for, just one last excuse to keep stopping by, so we can prop each other up, and remind us that nothing is set in stone, not even who we are, or who we pretend to be.

TJ