Showing posts with label therapy. Show all posts
Showing posts with label therapy. Show all posts

Thursday, August 20, 2020

What Path Are You On?

 

 4:21 a.m.
It is possible to take a path that will lead you nowhere — well, nowhere you want to be in life.

This path you accidentally take is a result of the small decisions you make every day. They are decisions you make all the time that don't always seem very important, and in many cases you are not even aware them. These thoughts often come disguised as excuses or things you tell yourself on repeat or decisions you don’t see as life-changing when in fact they are very significant.


Long ago I shelved everything inside of me and walked down the path of mediocrity for many years. I woke up every day feeling like I wasn’t the right person. It felt weird. All of my hopes remained hopes and any opportunities to embrace who I was or what I wanted were ignored.

In light of breaking free of this temporary, semi-isolated, existence we all find ourselves in at this moment, do you really want to continue to accidentally walk down the path of mediocrity and be separated from where you want to be in life?

Instead how about you try to keep going when you don’t feel like it, be the best you can be to the people that matter and remember quality is subjective, examine every part of your life and remove the things that cause atrophy, and do the small things well.


We are not born mediocre. We make little decisions day by day that lead us down the path we call “unsuccessful”. So remember, if they are decisions we make, that means we are in control and we can get on the right path.

 

TJ

Friday, September 29, 2017

Have You Become Emotionally Numb?




When we experience mild to severe feelings of detachment to the point it’s hard for us to access normal feelings any more, in that moment we are experiencing emotional numbness.

This includes both positive and negative emotions because you can’t just shut off one feeling. Common causes of emotional numbness include different types of stress and/or pain… from receiving bad news … to being in an accident … to recovering from the death of someone close … to a relationship breakup … to feeling deeply humiliated or ashamed.


So how do you overcome emotional numbness?

1. The first thing to do is to choose to value and accept all emotions – no matter what they are. Also, try and grasp the fact that suppressing your emotions will likely lead to heartache and problems later on (because they will more than likely resurface at inappropriate times.)

2. Try to understand that feelings and actions are two very different, and unrelated, things. That is, you can still feel angry without becoming violent – so don’t assume your feelings will affect your actions, too.

3. Try to figure out the message behind intense emotions. Are you angry because you’ve been hurt, used or abused? Are you sad because deep down you feel that you’ll never find true love - as you can’t believe that anyone will love you for who you really are below the surface?

4. Take that risk – and find the courage to ask someone for help. If you’re honest with yourself, you’ll know that there are those who genuinely love you – like a true and caring friend. The important thing remember is to not isolate yourself, and to make the extra effort to prioritize self-care. You need other people to help you work through this.

5. Seek professional help if the symptoms persist. There are excellent counselors and therapists out there who have the training and skills to help you to shake the numbness off – so you can live a more fulfilling and healthy life.

6. Be patient with yourself. It’s likely to take time because you will need to learn to trust, and take some barriers down, so you can be yourself again (and that is often hard to do when you’ve experience hurt and pain).



TJ

Tuesday, February 21, 2017

Lazarus: Multimodal Basic I.D.

IF YOU ARE A COLLEGE STUDENT BE SURE YOU DO NOT COPY THIS. IT BELONGS TO ME, AND IT WILL SHOW UP IN A PLAGIARISM CHECK! BE SURE TO CITE IT CORRECTLY. JUST TRYING TO HELP.
Multimodal Approach
Multimodal therapy, as described by Lazarus himself, is not a systematic approach. Lazarus claims it is anything but a standardized treatment. However, it can be described as, “an open system that encourages technical eclecticism” (Corey, 2009). Jogging and group therapy, within the multimodal approach, seems to be a “normal” eclectic combination. The multimodal approach is interdisciplinary in nature and focuses on using multiple approaches to achieve overall wellness. The combination of jogging and group therapy, although very different activities, based on the idea that physical exercise is an important element that contributes to the ability of people to perform better in all areas of life. This combination falls right in line with multimodal principles,
“The underlying assumption of this approach is that because individuals are troubled by a variety of specific problems it is appropriate that a multitude of treatment strategies be used in bringing about change” (Corey, 2009).
Corey explains that activity tends to be a common denominator with those who engage in the multimodal approach. The multimodal therapist functions, “as trainers, educators, consultants, and role models” (Corey, 2009).
Jogging and Group Counseling
There is a positive behavioral conditioning aspect that comes into effect when people can see the benefits of the physical activity and in turn relate those results with the expectations of the group therapy outcome. The correlation should be if one is improving the way they feel physically, they should expect the same results psychologically as well. This is what Lazarus refers to when he uses the term reciprocal determinism. The use of jogging and group therapy together achieves the connection that Lazarus refers to as a reciprocal transaction. Why is it important to understand the concept of multimodal therapy? Because the multimodal approach sees all modes of therapy as important, and that those modes can be carefully joined together in combinations to reach more desirable and effective results.
The Physical activity of jogging should, in this case, lower the defenses when the group meets together to discuss the issue at hand due to a transfer of their physical and psychological energy into the group.
Basic I.D.
Lazarus posited that personality could be divided into seven main categories of human functioning. These areas are behavior, affect, sensation, imagery, cognition, interpersonal relationship, and drugs/biology. He called it the Basic I.D. What does the combination of jogging and group therapy look like using Basic I.D.?
B – Behaviors
Behavior is a product of learning, and the multimodal approach emphasizes that there is, “a major link between some behavioral principles and the cognitive behavioral approach” (Corey, 2009). The link between jogging and group therapy could be summed up succinctly by saying that a change in psychological wellbeing can come from improvement of their health through learning the value of exercise.
A – Affect
Affect describes the emotions, moods, and strong feelings associated with behavior. Within the context of this writing, better physical wellbeing can improve the emotional state. When someone feels better they generally have a more positive outlook as well.
S – Sensation
Sensation describes the basic senses of touch, taste, smell, sight, and hearing. Physical activity often heightens the senses by increased respiration, perspiration, and cardiovascular activity. The increased activity through the bodily response can have the effect of increased mental activity as well.
I – Imagery
Imagery is how we see ourselves. In this scenario improved body image through the use of exercise should correlate to an overall improved mental self-image.
C – Cognition
Cognitions are, “the insights, philosophies, ideas, opinions, self-talk, and judgments that form attitudes, values, and beliefs” (Corey, 2009). Positive imagery in this scenario should have a positive effect on someone’s attitude. When gathered for group therapy following the period of jogging, a person can be more inclined to be open and transparent due to the improved attitude.
I - Interpersonal Relationship
Interpersonal Relationship is how someone interacts with others. Jogging together prior to meeting together in group therapy could improve social intimacy between the group members due to improved cohesiveness through engaging in group activities prior to discussing issues.
D – Drugs/Biology
This includes, “drugs, and nutritional habits, and exercise patterns” (Corey, 2009). In this scenario it is possible to connect physical wellbeing with mental/cognitive wellbeing.
Conclusion
When looking at how to approach group therapy, the multimodal approach seems to be a very valuable idea in spite of the premise (about the approach), “that breadth is often more important than depth” (Corey, 2009) It is valuable because “the more coping responses a client learns in therapy, the less are the chances for relapse” (Corey, 2009).

Works Cited:
Corey, G. (2009). Theory and practice of counseling and psychotherapy. Belmont, CA: Thompson/Brooks/Cole.
Lazarus, A. (n.d.). Lazarus-Multimodal-Therapy. Retrieved February 6, 2012, from Psychotherapy.net: http://www.psychotherapy.net/video/lazarus-multimodal-therapy